so therein lies the big question, what goes in, what stays out, does anything really, i can always just speak in code, or as i usually write, and most people won't have any idea, but i've put off writing, i don't know what to write, if i should, what kind of things become private in the context of relationships, like something shared between individuals, do i then have the privilidge, or right, to write? but alas, this forum is about me, about my head, and what goes here is that, and it shouldn't be hampered by good taste, or even morality, because you all have the choice to read this or not, read it or not, it is your choice to delve into the heart and soul, at least that which i bear on this